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Your Most Burning Question: How to Be Hotter for Daddy?

Want to bring all the boys to the literal and metaphorical yard? You gotta know how to be hotter! Here’s what to put in your milkshake to make it happen.
Editorial team
July 15, 2024
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Beauty may be subjective, but what about hotness? Although we’ve moved on from the days of websites like HOTorNOT and professional hotness curators like Paris Hilton, becoming hot is still some people’s lifetime pursuit.

Fortunately, we’re no longer subjected to such stringent rules about what’s hot. Hotness is in the eye of the beholder now, and many are realizing that being hot isn’t always about the look; it’s an energy. So, let’s get electric with some tips on how to be hotter.

How to get hotter in 20 simple steps

Sure, sex appeal is vibes-based, but how do you channel this energy so men everywhere bend to your every whim? Here are 20 things you can start doing today to make your mind, body, and soul a lot more appealing to your potential suitors.

1. Try more eye contact

There’s a finesse to making eye contact; it can go from charming to creepy in the blink of an eye (remember to blink, please). But a lot of hotness stems from confidence, and someone who isn’t afraid to engage with another person’s eyeballs comes across as self-assured.

2. Stop slouching

We live in an era where aimlessly scrolling YouTube in shrimp posture is the norm. However, posture is more important to your attractiveness than you might think. If you want to know how to be hot, remember that posture makes you look taller and more confident, instantly driving up your sex appeal by a few notches.

3. Focus on fitness

Genetics is a lottery. You can’t control your bone structure or facial symmetry, so it’s best to focus on what you can control. Working out to look hotter is definitely within your power.

You don’t have to be some chiseled Adonis to be considered attractive. Exercise generally strengthens your body and releases endorphins, giving you that special after-gym glow that’s sure to turn heads.

4. Brush up on body language

So much of our communication is nonverbal. You’ll be amazed how much a few tweaks in body language can increase your allure. Acting more confident can actually make you feel more confident and appealing, so carry yourself purposefully with a friendly but firm demeanor. Once you settle the idea in your mind, your body usually follows suit.

5. Switch up your hair

If you’ve had the same hairstyle forever, it might be time for a change. Get a haircut that frames your face and highlights your best features. You could be just a few inches away from some serious sex appeal.

6. Groom

Speaking of inches, sometimes the haircut that will bring out your best features takes place considerably south of your noggin. There’s certainly a market for bushy body hair; it’s about finding a grooming and hygiene regimen that suits your style. Show people you know how to tame the beast, and they’ll be more likely to ask if they can pet it.

7. Smile

It sounds silly, but smiling more can actually make you hotter. If you aren’t one for a big, toothy grin, go for the more flirtatious approach and smile with your eyes. History books refer to it as smizing, first introduced into the gay vernacular by philosopher Tyra Banks. It’s a way to get even more mileage out of your eye contact.

8. Laugh more

Another silly-sounding tip for how to be more sexy: Be sillier! Laughter releases dopamine and gives you that je ne sais quoi that makes cuties do a double-take. Tap into your playful side; you’ll be surprised how many people find this much hotter than giving the cold shoulder.

9. Try cologne

Here’s a secret weapon for those wondering how to become sexier: a signature scent. A seductive cologne could boost your hotness factor considerably. A few spritzes will do; no one should ever confuse your body for a Yankee Candle. And remember that fragrance is not a substitute for a shower.

10. Get enough sleep

We all have days when we need a triple espresso and a pound of makeup just to function, but it isn’t the key to hotness. You’re not going to like it, but Mother was right. If you want to know how to look hotter, healthy sleep habits and plentiful hydration will ensure you look good long-term. And your body will thank you.

11. Wear fitted clothes

Too many people drape themselves in clothes that do nothing for their body shape. Unless you’re making a particular fashion statement (which, like, werk!), tossing on a shapeless sack and going about your business isn’t going to do much for your overall sexiness. Wear clothes that show off your ass-ets so you look hot and fashionable!

12. Sharpen your wit

Hotness doesn’t stop with your looks. You can be the most attractive, confident person in the room, and it won’t do you any good with high-quality catches if you’re duller than dishwater. Challenge your mind regularly by engaging with your interests, reading books, and staying well-informed about multiple topics. 


13. Have sex

This one might sound like circular logic, but who doesn’t love a little 69? The more sex you have, the hotter you’re going to feel (especially if you know what you’re doing). Sex is also a workout and a mood booster — two more ways to make yourself more attractive.

14. Go with the flow

There’s nothing wrong with doing your hair and makeup to make yourself feel more attractive and confident when you go out with your closest hunties. But constant maintenance of these aspects makes you look less confident and more vain. Once you’re out, focus on having fun and being yourself!

15. Play around with facial hair

Facial hair can be a make-or-break for men. If you don’t take the time to properly groom it, that unkempt neckbeard won’t be most people’s cup of tea. And if you’re rocking a facial hairstyle that doesn’t compliment your face shape, you might be doing yourself a disservice. Try out different styles and see what works. When in doubt, you always have stubble to fall back on.

16. Stay off your phone

We’ve already covered the importance of eye contact. One of the best ways to ensure your peepers are “up here” is by prying them away from your Instagram feed. Remain engaged and interested to open up more opportunities for flirting. Hell, you might actually get to know that guy you’ve had your eye on.

17. Take care of you

Aside from your physical health, maintaining your emotional intelligence and mental health will make you feel and look good. It’s essential if you’re interested in dating someone long-term. No matter how hot you look on the outside, RuPaul’s words ring true: “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” Amen.

18. Care for your skin

No matter what those niche online fetish forums tell you, nobody wants to jump in bed with a life-size bit of beef jerky. Keep your glow alive by moisturizing your face and body frequently. And don’t forget the SPF to keep your skin plump and healthy!

19. Whiten your teeth

You don’t always have to go to the dentist for teeth whitening. An over-the-counter whitening toothpaste can help keep staining at bay. And maybe try drinking all those iced coffees through a straw.

20. Affirm yourself

When did you last look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re attractive? Take time to appreciate the beauty of your body! That smile? That hair? Those gorgeous eyes? Those are yours to love and embrace first! Everything about you becomes sexier when you love yourself.

You know how to look hot — now it’s time to feel hot

These hotness-boosting tips are universally applicable because they focus on bettering yourself as a person. People want people who strive to become the best versions of themselves. No amount of cologne, makeup, or clothes can substitute for the attractiveness you get from being confident in your own skin. 

So go out there and own that already hot body of yours — provided you’ve brushed your teeth first and put on something nice, yeah? Now that you know how to be sexy, it’s time to take that extra dose of hotness and confidence to the streets and meet other sexy guys with Grindr.

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