Have Your Cake and Eat It Too: A National Dessert Day Guide to Eating Ass

Happy National Dessert Day. If you’ve got a sweet tooth, consider the most decadent course on the menu: eating ass. It’s intimate, it’s playful, and when you do it right, it’s a trust fall that should end in fireworks, not crumbs.

Eating ass has hit the mainstream—and why not? There are a lot of nerve endings down there, making it a seriously underrated erogenous zone. For those who love to give, being face-deep in someone you trust can be intimate and deeply satisfying. It’s one of those acts that’s equal parts pleasure and connection. And honestly, it’s a hole. We all have one, and everyone deserves to enjoy theirs.

Just because rimming is trending doesn’t mean our rim literacy has caught up. More interest means more potential for mishaps, which is why your salad-tossing pals at Grindr are here with the lowdown on the down below.

Notebooks (and tongue rings) at the ready…

Ask First, Lick Later 

Let’s start where all good things do: communication. Asking someone to eat your ass—or to eat theirs—can feel vulnerable. Talk about preferences, boundaries, safe words, positions, and anything else that helps you both relax. Keep checking in during the moment. The more trust you build, the hotter it gets.

Clean Plate Club 

Some people are into funkier smells and tastes, and that’s fine—do you. But safety and hygiene matter when it comes to rimming. Bacterial infections like Shigella, Giardia, E. coli, or Hepatitis A can be passed through oral-anal contact. UTIs are also possible if you’re swapping from ass to cock frequently.

If you’re exploring with multiple partners, keep communication extra open and honest.

An enema or douche isn’t always necessary; rimming focuses on the rim itself, not deep penetration. Still, it helps to shower first or at least clean the area as best you can (and yes, respect your giver). If douching helps ease anxiety, go for it—but be gentle and give yourself at least an hour before play. Trimming or shaving is optional.

For givers: check your mouth. Avoid rimming if you have a cold sore or any cuts. Stay up-to-date on vaccines like Hepatitis A and B. If you’re moving from oral to anal sex, swap to a condom and a fresh, thick lube (silicone-based is great; flavored water-based is best for oral).

Lovely, now, what exactly makes for good rimming? 

Now for the fun part.

Rimming is all about stimulating the ring of nerve endings around the anus. Some people think it’s just licking, but it goes way, way, deeper than that. Go slow. Build anticipation. Alternate between circling the rim, teasing with your tongue, and letting your breath do some work too.

Keep things dynamic. Tease, pause, then go back in. You can flatten your tongue for broader contact or flick for a sharper sensation. Some receivers love a little penetration with a fingertip or toy (just communicate and use lube).

The crinkled outer edge of the anus is especially sensitive. Trace it. Explore. Pay attention to body language, moans, and movement. They’ll tell you what’s working better than words ever could.

Okay, so position-wise? 

Comfort and access are key. Here are a few classics:

• Doggy style: easy reach, classic angle.
  
  
• On stomach, hips propped by a pillow: relaxed and open.
  
  
• Spread-eagle: more exposure, great visibility for the giver.
  
  
• Face-sitting (reverse or not): power for the receiver, leverage for the giver—and easily turns into a 69.

There’s a lot to explore with rimming, and pleasure, trust, communication, and connection are all crucial ingredients to have your cake and eat it, too. On this National Dessert Day, skip the cupcakes and celebrate with something even sweeter: good technique, good hygiene, and a very satisfied partner.