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Good First Date Ideas You'll Both Actually Enjoy

You just invited your special someone on your inaugural official get-together! But you’re unsure what to do or where to take him. Discover some good first date ideas.
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October 20, 2023
June 20, 2024
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Let's get real about first dates. They're more than a quick meetup to grab coffee or a drink; they're the starting line for something potentially amazing.

Think of them as setting the tone for what's to come. But finding good first date ideas that are both unique and meaningful? That's like finding the perfect pair of jeans on the first try.

The old dinner-and-a-movie routine won't cut it anymore. Today's savvy daters are looking for something more — something that resonates with who they are.

Fear not! Our guide will ensure you always know what to do on a first date, whether you're after a lighthearted activity that'll have you both laughing like schoolboys or more intimate first date ideas for adults (wink, wink).

We’ve also got some helpful tips to ensure your evening runs smoothly (unless, of course, you like it rough). After all, the best first date ideas aren’t just about the itinerary itself; they're about building a genuine connection.

First date ideas that will leave him wanting more

When it comes to first date activities tailored to the vibrant and multifaceted interests of the gay community, these outings provide the perfect starting point for an unforgettable first date —  whether you're seeking romance, adventure, creativity, or simply a good time.

From soothing nature outings and adrenaline-pumping adventures to artsy urban experiences, explore our range of first date activities that go beyond the usual.

Seasonal date ideas

Celebrate the seasons with these first date ideas that embrace the natural beauty and unique offerings of each time of year. Whether you're blossoming in spring or cuffing in winter, these ideas are perfect for guys looking to connect with nature and each other.

  • Spring: Picnic, hiking, rollerblading
  • Summer: Beach trip, farmer's market, ice cream
  • Fall: Apple or pumpkin picking, corn maze, hayride
  • Winter: Ice skating, skiing, snowshoeing

Dates for every hour of the day

Whether you're early birds catching the worm or night owls hooting with laughter, these first date ideas cater to different times of the day — each offering flexibility and fun. From sun-kissed picnics to starlit dinners, there's something for every schedule.

  • Daytime: Shopping, zoo, museum, biking
  • Evening: Dinner, picnic, sunset sail
  • Nighttime: Comedy show, karaoke, stargazing

Dates by activity level

From high-energy adventures that'll make you sweat to laid-back experiences fit for leisurely lovebirds, these fun first date ideas are categorized by activity level to suit your mood, lifestyle, and how much you want to impress with those muscles.

  • Active: Rock climbing, rollerblading, laser tag, dance class
  • Moderate: Mini golf, horseback riding, canoeing, bowling
  • Relaxed: Coffee date, wine tasting, art gallery, cooking together

Romantic date ideas

Ignite the spark and fan the flames with these ideas designed to create intimate and romantic moments. These are ideal for guys seeking connection, romance, and maybe even a little serenade under the stars.

  • Sunset sail
  • Picnic
  • Stargazing
  • Spa day

Adventurous date ideas

For thrill-seekers, adrenaline junkies, and those who think love should be a daring adventure, these fun first date ideas offer excitement, novelty, and a touch of danger.

  • Rock climbing
  • Ziplining
  • Trapeze
  • Discovery flight lesson

Artsy date ideas

Embrace creativity, self-expression, and your diva side with these artsy date ideas. Perfect for anyone looking to explore, create, and get a little dirty (with paint, of course). Unleash your inner queen and let your creativity sashay down the runway!

  • Pottery class
  • Art gallery
  • Paint night
  • Chocolate making

Date ideas for foodies

They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Indulge in culinary delights, explore new flavors, and maybe even share a spaghetti strand or two with these food-centric date ideas.

  • Cooking class
  • Wine tasting
  • Brewery tour
  • Food festival

Fun and playful date ideas

Take a trip down memory lane with these nostalgic date ideas that evoke the fun and playfulness of yesteryears. Perfect for those who believe love should be as timeless as a classic arcade game.

  • Arcade
  • Bowling
  • Mini golf
  • Carnival/amusement park
  • Roller rink

If you want to spice things up even more, we know some exciting games that will make your date night sizzle.


Interactive date ideas

Engage, connect, and have fun with these interactive date ideas that promote teamwork, bonding, or even a little friendly competition. No matter what your instructor says, you can win at couples yoga.

  • Volunteering
  • Couples fitness class
  • Escape room
  • Go-karting

Conversational date ideas

Foster meaningful chats, deepen your connection, and solve the world's problems over lattes with these date ideas that encourage dialogue, understanding, and a good old-fashioned chinwag.

  • Coffee date
  • Nature hike
  • Museum tour
  • Vintage bookstore

If you're looking for inspiring conversation starters, we’ve got you covered there, too.

What not to do on first dates

The first date is your runway, your stage, your moment to shine. It's not just about looking good; it's about feeling good and making your date feel special, too. Every detail matters, from choosing the perfect venue to setting the right tone.

That said, planning a first date comes with its share of pitfalls. These common mistakes can turn even the best first date ideas into a hot mess:


OK, guy, you're not there to watch a film; you're there to watch each other! Sitting in silence and staring at a screen doesn't generate much interaction or opportunity to get to know each other. Save the cinema for later, when you're comfortable enough to share popcorn and not just awkward glances.

Super fancy restaurants

Unless you're dining with royalty, these stuffy places can feel as uncomfortable as outdated skinny jeans. Relaxed settings are often better for fostering real conversation and connection. You want to impress, not intimidate!

Bars or nightclubs

Loud and fabulous? Yes. Ideal for meaningful conversation? No. Save the dance floor for date number three when you're ready to show off those moves. Until then, choose a venue where every personal question isn’t met with “WHAT DID YOU SAY?” or a polite smile and nod of feigned understanding.

Private settings

Unless you already know each other, meeting at his or your place might be too forward. If you do, congrats on getting out of the friend zone! Otherwise, keep it public, keep it classy, and save the private invitations for after you’ve established trust and comfort.

Expensive activities

Don't break the bank on the first date; keep it simple instead. And remember, your charm is priceless. Consider splitting costs to avoid unnecessary pressure and avoid setting a precedent as a sugar daddy.

Divisive topics

Politics at the dinner table are a recipe for disaster. Focus on what unites you — not what divides you. Avoid activities that might emphasize religious or political differences, especially if they touch on a personal sore spot.

No plans

A date without a plan is like a ship without a rudder. Show some effort and let him know you care about the experience by scheduling something specific and memorable. Bonus points if it requires a reservation.

Activities one person dislikes

If he hates art, don't drag him to a gallery. Choose something you'll both enjoy based on what you know about each other so far. A first date is an excellent opportunity to find common ground and build from there.

Being late

Fashionably late is a myth. Would Miranda Priestly give her assistant bonus points for showing up 15 minutes late with Starbucks? Arriving on time shows respect and starts things off on the right foot. After all, real drama queens know their entrances and never miss a line.

Appearing disinterested

Put the phone down and look into his eyes. If you’re distracted, you can’t expect him to pick up the slack. Turn off your notifications and stay engaged to show genuine interest. That's where the magic happens.

Getting too intoxicated

A tipsy giggle is fine; slurring your words is not. Drink in moderation so it doesn't affect your judgment or behavior. You want to remember this night, don't you?

Talking about exes

Exes are out of your life for a reason. Keep the conversation focused on getting to know each other in the present rather than dwelling on past relationships.

Discussing commitment right away

Chill out, Romeo! First comes love, then comes marriage. Take things slow and avoid making your date uncomfortable with questions about whether he wants to adopt or use a surrogate.

Going to a gay bar together

It might seem like a fun idea, but going to a gay bar on the first date might lead to distractions and hinder meaningful conversation. Save the glitter and glamor for later dates. Honestly, you don’t want your man getting scoped out by other guys on the first date.

Bragging about yourself

Confidence goes a long way in the dating game, but it can also go too far. This isn’t a job interview, so don't drone on about your hotshot corporate job or try to impress with trivial accomplishments. Be genuine, not self-aggrandizing. Keep it real, and keep it humble.

Introducing him to friends or family

First dates are about you two, not your entourage. Keep it exclusive and save the family introductions for much later. (No, not the second, third, or fourth dates either!)

Find your next date on Grindr

Whether your first date is an adventurous outing or a cozy get-together, the secret sauce is you. Keep it light, let the connection grow, and embrace the joy of starting something new.

Now that you’ve got some stellar first date ideas, all you need is a guy to share them with. Fortunately, Grindr has 10 million monthly active users, so finding your perfect match is easier than ever. Whether you're looking for love, a casual fling, or something in between, we've got you covered.

Download the Grindr app now! Who knows? Maybe your next unforgettable first date is just a click away.

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