How to Give a Footjob That Will Have Him Running to You

Sex is a full-contact sport. And sometimes, that means slipping off your loafers and working your man's baseball bat with those big toes. 

Figuring out how to give a footjob isn't as hard as learning how to score a touchdown with a hockey puck. But a few footjob techniques can quickly get you on the varsity squad. Here's Grindr's foot for thought to sweep your man off his feet. 

What’s a footjob, and why do people like them? 

In case you've been living underneath a Foot Locker, a footjob is the act of masturbating a partner with your feet. Although it sounds like a niche bondage kink, foot fetishists aren't the only ones arching their backs over that arch in your shoes. 

Your body is a wonderland, and every part can provide a sexual service. A footjob with a pair of well-lotioned soles is a fun (and potentially heel-arious) way to explore non-penetrative sex and Dom/sub role-playing.

It can also be extremely sensory if you add silk stockings, toe-sucking, and full-body rubbing. And if you want to do some anus play, fingering him with the tip of your big toe isn't the most unusual thing to make a man cum. 

How to give a footjob

Giving a footjob isn't rocket science. But it takes more than spitting on your feet and rubbing them on your man's junk. Here are four time-tested techniques that will make your man's toes curl. 

1. Clean your feet

One way to kill a hard-on is unleashing a pair of smelly toes with hangnails and a moist case of athlete’s foot (unless, of course, your man has a stink kink). Before you load up on pumice stones and nail polish at your local CVS, talk with your partner about his sexual fantasies. A pair of feet that smell like they just ran a marathon might be what knocks his socks off. 

If your man wants your feet fresh as a daisy, wash them thoroughly with antibacterial soap. Spend extra time between your toes and around the cuticles, where lint and dirt tend to build up. Likewise, remove scratchy calluses and clean underneath your nails. A visit to a professional pedicurist to soak, exfoliate, and moisturize is a good idea to make sure your feet are squeaky clean and soft to the touch. Ask your man to clean his penis or douche it buttplay is going to enter the chat. 

2. Lube! Lube! And more lube!

Just like anal or a sloppy blow job, lubrication keeps your partner fully focused on pleasure. Unlike your anus and mouth, your feet don't naturally lubricate themselves. A good oil-based lubricant or natural massage oil will keep your feet moving smoother than a marathon runner. Get in on the rubdown, too! Ask your man to get foreplay started by applying the massage oil. 

3. Start with a massage

Good sex never starts going straight for the orgasm. A full body massage can elevate the vibes and rev up both of you. Starting with your hands or feet, massage the less obvious spots and slowly move your way to the spicy bits. For a full feet experience, your partner can lay on his back with you, sitting between his legs, moving your feet up and down his body. 

4. Use the best footjob sex position

Working your man to orgasm isn't for a certified pillow princess. It's a full-body exercise that requires you to use your leg, core, and arm strength to keep up that hard stroking. Finding a comfortable footjob position can alleviate the unexpected interval training. 

 Have your partner lie down, chest up. Position yourself in a seated position between his legs, using pillows, a wall, or a headrest to steady. Alternatively, try using your arms to support yourself. Make a diamond shape with your legs, and use the soles of your feet to stroke your man's penis. Or, use the sides of your feet and, if you're especially dextrous, the space between your big toe and long toe. If you get tired or have trouble finding the right rhythm, your partner can move your feet up and down with the motion and pressure that makes him moan. 

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Maybe he’s horny, maybe it’s a foot fetish

For some men, a footjob is just about finding a new thing to touch their dick with. For others, it might be about whetting a growing appetite for feet. Here are ways to differentiate between the two. 

1. Try a foot-forward sex position

You can edge your man with your feet before finishing him off, or go for round two with these four foot-forward sex positions:

• The platform: The receiver lays on his back with his partner lying on top of him 69 style, sucking him while rubbing his feet in the receiver’s face and letting him suck on his toes or foot. This position allows the giver to take full control, stroking the receiver’s cock or using a vibrator on his bussy. 
• The T strap: Both partners lie on their sides perpendicular to each other in a T shape. One bends his knees so the sole of his feet is in the other’s face while getting pounded from behind. This position allows for deep penetration that will heighten the sensation of having your big toe sucked. Alternatively, power bottoms can ride in a seated position, leaning back to use the bed or top's legs for extra support. 
• The wedge: The top sits on his heels with the bottom’s ass positioned on their lap. The top holds onto the bottom’s feet, licking and kissing them. He can also use the bottom’s ankles to pull his body up and down as he pounds. A pair of heels, knee-high socks, or soft stockings with a garter belt can turn up the aesthetic and sensory bliss of this crowd-pleasing deep penetration position.
• The pump: We can't think of a good reason to take off a pair of strappy heels during sex. To get into this position, the bottom assumes the doggy position on the edge of a bed or sturdy surface with their leg hanging over and bends his knees so his heels are against the top’s butter. The top bangs from behind, lifting and spreading the bottom’s legs by gripping his heels. 

2. Paired pleasure

A footjob can be pleasurable for both partners. Rather than getting a professional pedicure, have your man soak, clean, and lube your feet. It’s a fun way for you both to ease into a new experience and play with Dom/sub roles. Make him treat you like a princess to find out what’s underneath that glass slipper. 

3. Yassify your footjob

Sigmund Freud believed people sexualize feet because they look like dicks. If your feet and the idea of 10 penises in a row both give you a hard-on, maybe he was onto something. Whether you like the phallic features of a long toe, feet can be visually and tactilely pleasurable. 

New sexual activities are opportunities to explore kinks and fetishes, so go ahead and get your feet dirty. Blindfold him with silk stockings. Use your big toe to massage the prostate along his perineum. Use a vibrator or flogger to tickle or whip his feet. Practice dirty talk and kick him in the balls — lightly and with consent! If you aren't sure where to start, filling out a BDSM checklist can introduce you to foot-related kinks you never knew existed.

A pair of footjob FAQs

If you still have cold feet, here are a few more footjob FAQs.

What does a footjob feel like? 

The skin on your feet feels similar to your hands. A footjob is like a handjob but with slightly less pressure and coordination — unless you’re a practiced pro. 

What’s the best lube for a footjob? 

If you want to make your man orgasm with a footjob, choose a lube that lasts long without repeated application. Water-based lubes are good for adding extra oomph to your anus’ natural lubricant. Try a silicone or oil-based lube to keep your feet gliding until the end. 

Find your sole-mate

Now that you know how to give a footjob, it’s time to find your perfect pair. Grindr is full of men waiting to see what’s in those shoes. Download the Grindr app today and find a man who’s the toe-tal package.