Did any of that make sense to you? If so, pat yourself on the bum for being Grindr fluent. But for those who just saw a bunch of letters, allow us to welcome you to the world of queer dating. If you want to get the most out of the apps, you’re going to need to speak the language. Dig in below to discover the acronyms, abbreviations, and other lingo that’s become an inescapable part of the Grindr experience.
ANON — Short for “anonymous.” Probably won’t be exchanging phone numbers with this one.
Bator — People who tend to enjoy masturbating with others over penetration.
BB — Bareback (sex w/o a condom) 🤠
B/D — Bondage and/or domination. Feeling kinky?
Bear — A larger, typically hairy, gay male.
Bttm — A bottom, or the person who is penetrated during anal sex.
Can’t Host — Can’t have ppl over to hookup, possibly has a roommate, or parents.
Closeted — Not publicly out.
Daddy — An older gay male who is lusted after by younger men.
Discreet — Someone who values their privacy (could be closeted). Good luck getting a face pic.
DL — Downlow or closeted.
DP — Double Penetration: two penises, one hole.
Facepic only — Don’t try and message with just a torso profile.
Free Later? — You will never hear from this person again.
FWB — Friends with benefits (the main benefit being sex).
GH — Gloryhole; a hole in a public place where one can insert their penis and receive an anonymous blowjob.
Horned up — Aggressively horny.
Hookup — Meet up and have sex. Duh?
Hosting — Congrats, you have your own place! Or at least a private room where you can invite ppl over to fool around in.
Hung? — This person is a size queen.
Into? — No, this is not a question about your favorite hobbies. They mean what are you into sexually.
J/O — Jack off.
Jock — A gay man with an athletic build who is into fitness and/or sports.
Leather — A gay man involved in the gay leather subculture.
👀— Looking (for sex)
LTR — No, this is not about Lord of The Rings. LTR means long term relationship.
Masc4Masc — Something insecure ppl put on their profile.
💆♂️— Fancy a massage?
Milk — What some gay men call semen. Good for your bones!
More pics? — This person can’t tell if you’re their type just yet.
Nice — This person is not interested. Sashay away.
NSA — No strings attached (don’t get comfortable).
No Taps — This person has some sort of inexplicable problem with receiving compliments.
NPNC — No pic, no chat.
Otter — Gay ppl with fur who run on the lean side.
Pig 🐷— Pits, fluids, body odor. Also see: Raw Only.
Raw Only — No condoms during anal sex.
RN — Right now.
Safe — A fan of safe sex practices: condoms, PrEP, etc.
Showoff — Ppl who want to have public sex.
Thicc — A body-positive bigger guy.
Travel — Either on a vacation or lives with his parents.
Twink — A young, hairless gay man.
UC — An uncut penis.
Unicorn — A single male who likes to sleep with couples.
Vers — Top and bottom bunk.
WS — Watersports. Urine for a treat!